Saturday, December 24, 2016

Happiness

 Why do we feel something bad, really bad is going to happen the moment you are happy. What is this fear that we carry around which stops us from enjoying the good that happens to us, and achievement probably as a result of years of hard work, something which you might have desired or deserved for a very long time, a news which you were waiting for months or years to hear. In the era, where you publicly announce even if you sneeze and send a pic of every dog you find on the street, why does sharing or even knowing something good has happened to you feels like a bad omen.
As the old adage goes, even the walls have ears, even in the closed rooms you fear discussing a good news and enjoy with whole heart and soul may somehow be the precursor of the bad things about to happen. You don’t want the word to leave the room or fall on people ears, who may not wish good for you. What it essentially does is dampen the whole celebrations around a happy news, try to tone it down to a level that people don’t or should not notice. Why can’t people be just happy listening to good news to a family or a friend? Is it in our nature to find happiness in someone’s misfortune, or is it just competition as to who reaches where first or does it the quickest. Why have we become beings of unhappiness and jealously. Why can’t we be happy in the most sincere way for someone or something?
Probably, no one really cares about anyone or anything anymore; it has become more about having likes and doing check-ins on Facebook to get people jealous, without realizing that someone somewhere must be getting upset because of those one line updates. Have we become so small in reacting with jealousy or is it just our inner fear, which always assumes that someone is always thinking negative; the optimist in me wants to think it as the 2nd.
Life is short, too short to be unhappy about anything or anyone. Of the millions of people who live, it is the few 10s that we know off, be sincere to these people, be passionate about the relations you have and be happy. How difficult is it to emit positivity in every line you speak, it is nothing but a habit. The more you practice it, the better you become and the less you do it, the harder it becomes. You don’t need to save your best for the really close ones. Act selflessly, do something where you have zero benefit in the outcome and do it repeatedly. Life does become a happier place for you and everyone who interacts with you.
Don’t be the person, who the other is scared to share happy news with, if they think it brings bad omen then it simply implies you need to change. There is a lot to improve and I guess the trick is very simple, observe how and when people tell a good news, is it at the junction when telling it is inevitable and everyone has to know or are you among the firsts to know it and is often accompanied by the statement “Don’t share it with others as yet”.
These are very subtle cues, which people give you, but learning from it is important. And every such interaction is a learning opportunity, to be a better human and to improve you.

If you are surrounded by such good positive individuals you will be the first to enjoy your own happy news with a tear of happiness. Being happy is not that difficult if you really think about it.